Sigh.  Sorry.  This is what is called a learning experience.  Go out, drink a bit too much, talk to lots of people, find someplace with loud music and dance, etc.  Seriously it will be better tomorrow.  

Tomorrow you should read Paul Tudor Jones '  failure speach.  Google will find it.  It's good.

I thought I would save you the Google search on Paul Tudor Jones' speach.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/16588637/Paul-Tudor-Jones-Failure-Speech-June-2009

Umar indeed it feels like not living , this  wonderful life especially at this point in time. This kind of thiings happens to show you some obvius and simple facts hidden from you.

First am happy to hear your own admission that you screwed it up yourself, you know what? next time you get another nice girl(I know you dont believe that you will ever get one like her again Even Romeo thought so before Juliet came calling and they fell in love!)

This happens so that you can learn that you are the Captain of your soul, the Driver of your destiny and everything is there in your hands for you to loose yet again.

Abut how you are feeling, crap? Thats a good feeling since the emotional pressure builds you a better person for the next nice girl waiting for you, dont run away from pressure remember always that pressure makes diamonds harder than stone!

Switzerland for me doesn`t feel like home and never will, but that is me, I don`t intend staying here, I have never had a boyfriend here or ever, and I know that it is hard being single in this country for both men and women, people ask me how i survive here without a boyfriend, expats of course who are new here.

Generally speaking, u have to ask yourself what you really want and if Switzerland is in the answer then stay, if not sure you can follow your heart and find that happiness here in CH, or elsewhere, single or with a girl. U are the master of your universe, and u decide your fate, that is what a good friend once told me.

Russ

awww that sucks, I know how you feel, but I bet once you go home for christmas you will feel a lot better, seeing familiar faces always lifts my spirits :) Im 23 and still kinda new here too and trying my hardest to find stuff to do, every time I go out though its just so different from home and I dunno Im just not liking it just now! Im very excited for my christmas holiday! And you should be too! Breaks up suck, but you'll get there, i promise :) x

To Umar and Carla,

Sounds like a shit time. Not a lot anyone says will make you feel better. Time and some new experiences will help.

If you can connect with some of great people here it will make all the difference. Geneva is a little slow and it is always hard to get in with the locals.

Try a couple of the events but start by NOT trying to jump into a relationship. Build some friends and expand your circle. Then you can decide how to balance your social life and the work side of things. At the end of the day (Umar) if you f***ed up the relationship, accept it and learn from it. Don't waste too much time beating yourself up over it.

Have a great break and remember that life is what you make it.

Im in Bern yeh! Add me on facebook if you want and we could meet up sometime - Carla Mulherron x

Its all an illusion Umar.    We create our own universe - our own life around us.

Since that good ole New Years Resolution is coming up......how about you promise yourself some things so that you can become the person you have always wanted to be.  Know yourself more.

ATTRACTING A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP OR ANYTHING IN LIFE,  IS NOT IN CHASING RAINBOWS BUT IN ATTRACTING THE THINGS AND PEOPLE ACCORDING TO WHO WE BECOME.  NOthing can leave you if it is rightfully yours because of who you are.  Nothing.

Look inside of you - do some soul searching.   No one who understands fully what they want out of this life has the fear of losing anything :-)  

Love everything you do, love yourself, love your life, and only then you will understand what you love in another.  Only then love will come find you - not before that, before that something else that is mistaken for love comes along - that is called addiction.

Appreciate life and you will heal faster.

Make a list and do it all !!!    There is so much out there !   Don`t wake up 10 years later thinking you wasted time.   I am 39 years old now - if anyone could give me 10 years I would discover the world all over again without regrets, without pain, without holding on to hate, without thinking that not having a partner leaves me empty.   Respect your Youth, Embrace your good life and the faster you understand yourself more and move on, the faster you can make yourself and any future partner happy.

One last thing :  Each person who comes into our lives is our teacher - some teach us in a short period of time, some longer......it is all about learning and not holding on.

Create a Masterpiece of a Life my friend,

Dr. Cat

Dr.Cat-- I second that!!  LEtting go of what no londger serves us allows us to receieve what we want as well!

Umar and Carla-- I am unsure if Lausanne is close to you all, yet you are welcome here!  Kirsty175 organises a lot of things and there are plenty of people in your age group at her events.  In fact, most of our events have a braod range, yet hers are more closer to your group.  me, i always feel 29 so am there too!

We are having a christmas drinks party here on Friday 11 December, pool usually every Wed and of course tons of other events.

hang in there, before you know it you shall wake and CH is then home!

xo

Hi All,

I am a one person just broke up with my bf yesterday.

Umar, Thank you to sharing your feeling on this site, I can say that in your case is might better than mine because at least you know the reason what to break your relationship (but my case was blinding, I dont know the reason why?, he just said I'm so nice-maybe he dosen't like a nice person :) its funny, right?). Anyway I'm sure you will meet a nice girl and you will have a better relationship, you will not do any mistake again, it will be lesson learn for you. Nobody perfect. Give going on, you still young and have a lot of chance to meet nice people.

Thank you every one especially Dr. Cat for your comment on this, it's very useful. So let me have a deep beath and I will walk out from this situation.

I wish to meet new people to try to going out, I wish to join some activity with all of you.

Hope to see you soon.

Noy

carla, if you are in bern, show umar the Altes  Tram Depot, beside the old bear pit. this pub has great food, beer (it's a mini brewery) and great atmosphere. i'm sure after a short time, the world will take on a new image for you all.

cheers,

roger

Umar am happy to hear this, as you try to sort out yourself always remember the "Scarcity Principle" and make good use of it and it will never let you down.Simply put live your own life and give her lots of space, too much of yourself on her will go towards suffocating you too!

Always the elements that are rare are always deemed precious, she needs space and love and you to be seen to be in control. If you allow her to think that the world revolves around her(Sorry for being mean but true) then you will be in for another battle since the war is not yet over.

Ever heard the song which says "Theres a danger in loving somebody too much"?

My best wishes

Good for you !   Taking Action towards what you really want is courage in motion !

Remember to learn, to give, to share and to grow and when it has served its purpose whether it will be in a few months or few years or more..........let go.............

Keep Creating a Masterpiece of Yourself !

Dr. Cat