(everyone hang on, wall of text incoming)
Keeping a man interested (and in the chasing mood) isn't as difficult as women may think. We are actually incredibly simple creatures (with some subtlety thrown in) and pretty much made for "the hunt".
The idea though, is balance (this is actually true of everything in life ;)). We do like chasing after the girls, but there needs to be feedback. We need to be able to “catch” you once in a while, if you run too far away or we never get to see you in a vulnerable moment, unfortunately we will lose interest and go chase someone else. (Told you, we’re simple creatures)
The best analogy would be more like fishing really instead of actual hunting. In fishing, once the fish takes the bait, there's the constant tension on the fishing line, where the fish pulls and gives, the fisherman also does the same, because if he pulls to hard the line could break, but if he lets it go too much the fish can break away. Note that the woman’s role here is that of the fisherman (and here you thought I was comparing you girls to a fish). That tension is what makes the dating/relationship exciting and it needs to stay that way in order for both parties to be interested and eventually “move to the next level”.
This "tension" between 2 people usually happens naturally when they start dating each other, but it doesn’t mean that it can’t be provoked or extended unnaturally. It’s akin to the fish jerking the line or the fisherman suddenly reeling in quickly. Surprise is what keeps the excitement, but once again there needs to be reciprocity. Don’t pull too much, but don’t let go too much either. Once the initial infatuation subsides, if you want to continue having excitement, then it’s up to you (as a couple) to extend this state, or together decide to mellow out. (Too big of a topic to discuss, so let’s stop here)
Unfortunately, people get lazy with their relationship once they start getting used to it. Keeping the relationship exciting and alive is up to both parties, it can’t be a one way street or eventually the excitement dies out and well... things fall apart.
So, after that extremely long introduction, here’s my suggestion to your friend. Do something in return that will surprise him but not to go overboard, just enough to let him know she’s interested but that he will have to work to keep her interested. That is, if she really is interested in him. (note that she’s also having to work to keep him interested, so really it is a two-way street)
Unfortunately, like in everything, you can never be sure if the other party is really interested in you or if he/she just enjoys the thrill of the chase or adding another notch on the headboard. Forewarned is forearmed.
Sep 21, 15 10:42