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how to go to a glocals meeting when you are really shy ?

Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?


i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much

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Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?


i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much


Peter Andrew VJul 30, 2016 @ 11:35
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Hi Peter,


I'm quite shy so I had the same problem when I first joined Glocals. I think you just have to do it basically. Even if you only talk to a few people, each time will be easier. I ended up trying to sneak out of the door in 2011 at my first event because it seemed so hard to break the ice but luckily somebody kind realised what I was doing and started talking to me Smile Even people who seem confident can be feeling the same as you so just take the plunge and keep turning up. 

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Hi Peter,


I'm quite shy so I had the same problem when I first joined Glocals. I think you just have to do it basically. Even if you only talk to a few people, each time will be easier. I ended up trying to sneak out of the door in 2011 at my first event because it seemed so hard to break the ice but luckily somebody kind realised what I was doing and started talking to me Smile Even people who seem confident can be feeling the same as you so just take the plunge and keep turning up. 


Jan S, Jul 30, 2016 @ 11:51
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I find it easier to establish a conversation while actually doing something. E.g. go on one of the walks/hikes. Even if it may be a big group, one always splits into smaller sub-groups, and it's much easier to chat. And even  if you do walk five minutes without saying anything, it doesn't feel bad.


The improv workshops organised on Glocals is also a good way of bolstering your self-confidence, and getting contact with people.


The most difficult occasion to socialise is during the big drinks, with nothing going on. (e.g. organised by Internations). I'd stay away from them.

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I find it easier to establish a conversation while actually doing something. E.g. go on one of the walks/hikes. Even if it may be a big group, one always splits into smaller sub-groups, and it's much easier to chat. And even  if you do walk five minutes without saying anything, it doesn't feel bad.


The improv workshops organised on Glocals is also a good way of bolstering your self-confidence, and getting contact with people.


The most difficult occasion to socialise is during the big drinks, with nothing going on. (e.g. organised by Internations). I'd stay away from them.


tawb, Jul 30, 2016 @ 14:18
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Or try to find events that have a concrete topic that is interesting to you so you can enjoy listening until you feel comfortable enough to actually join in.



Big after-works are indeed horrible, but that's not the only thing on InterNations either. All in all you don't need to join there though to find interesting people, true!

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Or try to find events that have a concrete topic that is interesting to you so you can enjoy listening until you feel comfortable enough to actually join in.



Big after-works are indeed horrible, but that's not the only thing on InterNations either. All in all you don't need to join there though to find interesting people, true!


Konrad S, Jul 30, 2016 @ 15:50
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Go to events and each time speak to someone. If there is someone you recognize, make sure to speak to them (It will be easier). Remember that everyone is in the same boat, just like you cannot tell that other people are nervous, they cannot tell that you are. Above all, be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, what's the point?


keep going, keep talking, before you know it the shyness will go.

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Go to events and each time speak to someone. If there is someone you recognize, make sure to speak to them (It will be easier). Remember that everyone is in the same boat, just like you cannot tell that other people are nervous, they cannot tell that you are. Above all, be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, what's the point?


keep going, keep talking, before you know it the shyness will go.


Alastair G, Jul 31, 2016 @ 10:10
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Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?

i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much


Jul 30, 16 11:35

Thanks...just for asking this question, I feel the same way...I went to an event the other night, almost turned around at the last minute but really happy I didn't :)  I met some kind people who really made it a great night out!!  Something I needed, so just talk positive to yourself and go slow...for sure, there are other's just like you! let us know how you do at your next event! :) cheers! 

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Thanks...just for asking this question, I feel the same way...I went to an event the other night, almost turned around at the last minute but really happy I didn't :)  I met some kind people who really made it a great night out!!  Something I needed, so just talk positive to yourself and go slow...for sure, there are other's just like you! let us know how you do at your next event! :) cheers! 


kitcat, Jul 31, 2016 @ 12:12
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Hi Peter, 


 


Thanks for asking this question. I really appreciated reading the very helpful replies and reminded me agan what lovely people we have among the Glocals members. You will be fine and you have already taken the first step by reaching out to people and asking for help. Enjoy!

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Hi Peter, 


 


Thanks for asking this question. I really appreciated reading the very helpful replies and reminded me agan what lovely people we have among the Glocals members. You will be fine and you have already taken the first step by reaching out to people and asking for help. Enjoy!


delseta9_, Jul 31, 2016 @ 14:40
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Your question inspired me to write a blog post. 


At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting. 

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Your question inspired me to write a blog post. 


At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting. 


Richard A, Jul 31, 2016 @ 16:31
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Your question inspired me to write a blog post. 

At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting. 


Jul 31, 16 16:31

Richard - I couldn't have put it better myself.


That was such a nice post.  


And you're right.  


You found your passion with Julian's Via Ferrattas and expanded your friendship network in that way.


Looking forward to being with you (again) on the "wineboat" at Julian's BBQ tomorrow!!


Cool

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Richard - I couldn't have put it better myself.


That was such a nice post.  


And you're right.  


You found your passion with Julian's Via Ferrattas and expanded your friendship network in that way.


Looking forward to being with you (again) on the "wineboat" at Julian's BBQ tomorrow!!


Cool


Carolyn C, Jul 31, 2016 @ 21:06
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Honestly, with how engaging glocals community people are, I think it is actually much harder not to end up in the middle of a conversation, than to start or have one ;).
 
I really love how this thread is brainstorming ideas and “hacking” the core of various events. Its true each kind allows its own type of participation and therefore “requires” different type of “skills” or “attitude”. Even if myself I organise events, sometimes I like just to listen, observe and “keep calm”.
 
Maybe some kind of discussion events can be the option. I organise events that encourage people to talk about the subject or idea they like/care about/ are inspired by. There is also Book Club group and Cafe News meet ups. As you can join in both by talking or only listening, this could be a smooth landing, when you can simply follow the momentum and decide on the spot ;). 
 
Its great to have a mountain ahead, the new top is waiting ;)
So yes, hiking as proposed here, might be one of those “how to" 
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Honestly, with how engaging glocals community people are, I think it is actually much harder not to end up in the middle of a conversation, than to start or have one ;).
 
I really love how this thread is brainstorming ideas and “hacking” the core of various events. Its true each kind allows its own type of participation and therefore “requires” different type of “skills” or “attitude”. Even if myself I organise events, sometimes I like just to listen, observe and “keep calm”.
 
Maybe some kind of discussion events can be the option. I organise events that encourage people to talk about the subject or idea they like/care about/ are inspired by. There is also Book Club group and Cafe News meet ups. As you can join in both by talking or only listening, this could be a smooth landing, when you can simply follow the momentum and decide on the spot ;). 
 
Its great to have a mountain ahead, the new top is waiting ;)
So yes, hiking as proposed here, might be one of those “how to" 
chevre k, Jul 31, 2016 @ 23:08
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Hey Peter,


Really cool question. The advice above is all really good stuff but for me, maybe focuses on how great it is once you're inside or what events to go to when sometimes getting trough the door is the toughest part. it could be an idea to go with someone so you're not alone. you could meet an attendee (just shoot anyone a message) Or a friend on Glocals for a quick drink 15 mins before and go together. It's much less intimidating approaching a big group like that. Once you find a group you can split off or hang out :)


im sure any of the folk above (including myself) would be open to that :) 


 


 

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Hey Peter,


Really cool question. The advice above is all really good stuff but for me, maybe focuses on how great it is once you're inside or what events to go to when sometimes getting trough the door is the toughest part. it could be an idea to go with someone so you're not alone. you could meet an attendee (just shoot anyone a message) Or a friend on Glocals for a quick drink 15 mins before and go together. It's much less intimidating approaching a big group like that. Once you find a group you can split off or hang out :)


im sure any of the folk above (including myself) would be open to that :) 


 


 


felix c, Aug 1, 2016 @ 10:08
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Here is your non judgmental friend you'll find at every party. Helps you loosen up too...


https://surreyvslondon.files.wordpress.com/2015/03/booze.jpg


Just find the adequate dosage.


Good luck, mate.


Not so much recommanded if you choose to go hiking, though...

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Here is your non judgmental friend you'll find at every party. Helps you loosen up too...


https://surreyvslondon.files.wordpress.com/2015/03/booze.jpg


Just find the adequate dosage.


Good luck, mate.


Not so much recommanded if you choose to go hiking, though...


Casuistik, Aug 1, 2016 @ 10:17
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