Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?
i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much
Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?
i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much
Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?
i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much
Hi Peter,
I'm quite shy so I had the same problem when I first joined Glocals. I think you just have to do it basically. Even if you only talk to a few people, each time will be easier. I ended up trying to sneak out of the door in 2011 at my first event because it seemed so hard to break the ice but luckily somebody kind realised what I was doing and started talking to me Even people who seem confident can be feeling the same as you so just take the plunge and keep turning up.
Hi Peter,
I'm quite shy so I had the same problem when I first joined Glocals. I think you just have to do it basically. Even if you only talk to a few people, each time will be easier. I ended up trying to sneak out of the door in 2011 at my first event because it seemed so hard to break the ice but luckily somebody kind realised what I was doing and started talking to me Even people who seem confident can be feeling the same as you so just take the plunge and keep turning up.
I find it easier to establish a conversation while actually doing something. E.g. go on one of the walks/hikes. Even if it may be a big group, one always splits into smaller sub-groups, and it's much easier to chat. And even if you do walk five minutes without saying anything, it doesn't feel bad.
The improv workshops organised on Glocals is also a good way of bolstering your self-confidence, and getting contact with people.
The most difficult occasion to socialise is during the big drinks, with nothing going on. (e.g. organised by Internations). I'd stay away from them.
I find it easier to establish a conversation while actually doing something. E.g. go on one of the walks/hikes. Even if it may be a big group, one always splits into smaller sub-groups, and it's much easier to chat. And even if you do walk five minutes without saying anything, it doesn't feel bad.
The improv workshops organised on Glocals is also a good way of bolstering your self-confidence, and getting contact with people.
The most difficult occasion to socialise is during the big drinks, with nothing going on. (e.g. organised by Internations). I'd stay away from them.
Or try to find events that have a concrete topic that is interesting to you so you can enjoy listening until you feel comfortable enough to actually join in.
Big after-works are indeed horrible, but that's not the only thing on InterNations either. All in all you don't need to join there though to find interesting people, true!
Or try to find events that have a concrete topic that is interesting to you so you can enjoy listening until you feel comfortable enough to actually join in.
Big after-works are indeed horrible, but that's not the only thing on InterNations either. All in all you don't need to join there though to find interesting people, true!
Go to events and each time speak to someone. If there is someone you recognize, make sure to speak to them (It will be easier). Remember that everyone is in the same boat, just like you cannot tell that other people are nervous, they cannot tell that you are. Above all, be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, what's the point?
keep going, keep talking, before you know it the shyness will go.
Go to events and each time speak to someone. If there is someone you recognize, make sure to speak to them (It will be easier). Remember that everyone is in the same boat, just like you cannot tell that other people are nervous, they cannot tell that you are. Above all, be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not, what's the point?
keep going, keep talking, before you know it the shyness will go.
Could you give me any tips/ any advices ?
i would love to join you on glocals but because I'm so shy going to meeting seems to be a huge mountain ! thanks so much
Thanks...just for asking this question, I feel the same way...I went to an event the other night, almost turned around at the last minute but really happy I didn't :) I met some kind people who really made it a great night out!! Something I needed, so just talk positive to yourself and go slow...for sure, there are other's just like you! let us know how you do at your next event! :) cheers!
Thanks...just for asking this question, I feel the same way...I went to an event the other night, almost turned around at the last minute but really happy I didn't :) I met some kind people who really made it a great night out!! Something I needed, so just talk positive to yourself and go slow...for sure, there are other's just like you! let us know how you do at your next event! :) cheers!
Hi Peter,
Thanks for asking this question. I really appreciated reading the very helpful replies and reminded me agan what lovely people we have among the Glocals members. You will be fine and you have already taken the first step by reaching out to people and asking for help. Enjoy!
Hi Peter,
Thanks for asking this question. I really appreciated reading the very helpful replies and reminded me agan what lovely people we have among the Glocals members. You will be fine and you have already taken the first step by reaching out to people and asking for help. Enjoy!
Your question inspired me to write a blog post.
At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting.
Your question inspired me to write a blog post.
At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting.
Your question inspired me to write a blog post.
At the core I would suggest finding events that suit your passions. If you find a group to enjoy your passions with then shyness will be replaced by passion. You will forget that you are shy within minutes of the group meeting.
Richard - I couldn't have put it better myself.
That was such a nice post.
And you're right.
You found your passion with Julian's Via Ferrattas and expanded your friendship network in that way.
Looking forward to being with you (again) on the "wineboat" at Julian's BBQ tomorrow!!
Richard - I couldn't have put it better myself.
That was such a nice post.
And you're right.
You found your passion with Julian's Via Ferrattas and expanded your friendship network in that way.
Looking forward to being with you (again) on the "wineboat" at Julian's BBQ tomorrow!!
Here is your non judgmental friend you'll find at every party. Helps you loosen up too...
Just find the adequate dosage.
Good luck, mate.
Not so much recommanded if you choose to go hiking, though...
Here is your non judgmental friend you'll find at every party. Helps you loosen up too...
Just find the adequate dosage.
Good luck, mate.
Not so much recommanded if you choose to go hiking, though...