Thank You Julian !

haha.. Perhaps, i'm not too sure about the latter part which you mentioned :D

I'm not ready for that yet.

i agree witeh julian, seeing her " tie the knot" may hurt but it will give you closure.

Thanks Epicure.

I've now made my mind up. I shall visit her wedding, wish her luck with big smiles and put an end to all PERIOD

Guys, I like this conversion!

Xinian

The least we can say is that she does not waste her time. Be the big guy here and just appear to the wedding. I guess you had friends in common so in any case you'll be able to stick with them.

Go and take a lady friend:)

Thing is we do not have much common friends. perhaps, hardly 10 or maybe even less.

I doubt these mutuals will turn in for the wedding.

So, is there any change in your thought process now ?

Thanks,

D

To make her feel jealous ? ;) haha

I'll just leave these here...

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/11451270/Johnny-Depps-marriage-What-wedding-gift-do-you-buy-your-ex.html

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1996-05-16/features/9605160295_1_poor-parents-warn-phrase

well, what do you feel like doing? How do you think you will feel being at her wedding, seeing her marry the other guy, wondering how long it had been going on. Or is she really marrying someone who she met in the last "couple of months"? In which case, how will you feel knowing it took her only two months to find someone she was willing to commit the rest of her life with, not the case with you, I assume?

Who will be there, if you do not have many friends in common, and how will you feel being around them, especially the groom's friends? How will her friends feel, and how will they make you feel?

Were you and her really very close friends, and do you expect you will continue to be, and is that why she is inviting you and why you might want to go see her starting a new life, filled with happiness?

Do you now her future husband? How does he feel about it and how do you think he will act towards you?

There is no right or wrong answer to your question, it is really a matter about how you feel about it and how you will feel being there. Only you can find the answer to that.

Thanks for this JR.

Beats me to know the answers for all the questions which u jus asked.

Just to inform you. Her future hubby has no clue about our relationship. so, i can ignore what he feels or treats me there.

But, yea, it would be really embarassing and boring for me to be isolated from the bunch of new people at the wedding

-D

Why not:)

Haha !

I shall keep this in my mind ! Very useful tip indeed.

Reckon you should try and bang her

If you go, don't drink too much: you may deliver a speech you sure will regret for years to come...

WILD @:

Sure Man..

Point Taken :D

Would you feel comfortable spending time with your ex 1 on 1? say for drinks, or for dinner? 

I'd imagine that if the thought of those two makes you a little uneasy or more, then watching her marry someone else ina dramatic, romantic setting for hours, might be a bit much.

But, as well as a bit much, i guess one question would be, what is the reaons for/ benefit of you going? why would you want to go? To be a good person in the situation? If so, surely it is a balance vs the repercussions, if it will be quite saddening and could cause more issues, then for me, it would not be worth it, unless we:
- were really good friends
- had been really good friends
- had a big mutual friends group
- children were involved

i'm sure there are more examples but i guess what i mean, there needs to be some deeper connection/reason worth taking a hit for.

It also depends on your mental state at the moment. If you feel strong enough to deflect bad thoughts from visual cues, then it might not be all that bad.

like mentioned above, i dont think there is a right or wrong answer, well... there could be, but you would probably know it, and wouldn't be here! 

Either way, keep strong. And remember that taking your time to recalibrate is a great idea, which raises an eyebrow over at the speed of this coming wedding

Take your time, and figure out who this new post marriage-you is.

I'll end with this link :D 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Gqwi7Y96sk

No way!  That would be very ill-mannered on your part and your companion would be a gate-crasher if there’s a seating-plan for a sit-down meal.

If you do decide to go, go alone,  wearing your best bib and tucker and holding your head on high.

It may seem daunting but it will be a big step towards the new horizons that will open up in your life including, I hope, a new relationship that will be more compatible and enduring.

So, “courage”, and all the best, R.

If it hurts, don't go. 

On the other hand - think of the benefits! You may meet new people and enjoy some snacks! 

.. I like the "snacks" part of this whole affair. :D

What is going in her head and why would she invite you? Was it all so amicable that you are now `besties`, it doesn`t sound like that.

Is she trying to make you feel bad? If it has been so recent (the breakup), it does not sound healthy from a psychological point of view.  

One can have closure without physically going, unless you both are on friendly terms and truly you have moved on.

If it sounds too messy then it probably is not a good idea. As someone else said, do what you feel is good for you not for her or others.

Rightly said, i need to find | Who am I ?| post weddin !

My mind is wavering to be frank R.

I wish i go in front of her, wish her luck and come back happily.

Wherein, in the other hand, like some one mentioned above, WHY AM I DOING THIS ?

hits my head often !

-D

What, please, does “arranged” mean exactly?

Not being judgmental are we?

Yes Henrietta/

This wedding is an Arranged one.

Worst part according to me  is she talks with her fiance  using skype . She is going to meet him in person only a week before her wedding..

-D

Guys,

I've made  up my mind now.

It was once a good period for both us but not anymore.

Even if i go there, i might put her in an uneasy situation and i have no idea how i will react.

So, let her not face that and just enjoy her wedding !

This is not an end for me .

There is life after love failure and there is love after love failure

I shall pour all the love that i've in me for the one who is coming in my life now  :)

Thanks all for your wonderful suggestions !

-D

Yes...you may have won this one but I live to fight again.