Since we were talking about money in another topic...
Lets say that in a couple only one person is working and has to support the
other partner. If it happened in your relationship would you accept it?
And if you are the dependent partner (or the provider), what is the
financial arrangement with your other half? Do you give him/her a fixed
amound every month or he/she asks when they need money?
Me personally i would not accept for either of us not to work. And i
would not feel comfortable for the man to give me money if im not
working. I want my independance.
What about you?
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Financial dependancy
Oct 16, 2009 @ 04:14
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Since we were talking about money in another topic...
Lets say that in a couple only one person is working and has to support the
other partner. If it happened in your relationship would you accept it?
And if you are the dependent partner (or the provider), what is the
financial arrangement with your other half? Do you give him/her a fixed
amound every month or he/she asks when they need money?
Me personally i would not accept for either of us not to work. And i
would not feel comfortable for the man to give me money if im not
working. I want my independance.
What about you?
Maria_Oct 16, 2009 @ 04:14
Lets say that in a couple only one person is working and has to support the
other partner. If it happened in your relationship would you accept it?
And if you are the dependent partner (or the provider), what is the
financial arrangement with your other half? Do you give him/her a fixed
amound every month or he/she asks when they need money?
Me personally i would not accept for either of us not to work. And i
would not feel comfortable for the man to give me money if im not
working. I want my independance.
What about you?
Maria_Oct 16, 2009 @ 04:14
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Re: Financial dependancy
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Oct 16, 2009 @ 13:18
If people answer it will be :)
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Oct 16, 2009 @ 14:33
I guess there is a great importance to cultural backgrounds in the decision. In certain cultures, it is expected to have only one earner in the relationship; while in others, it is customary to have 2 earners. Also culturally, there are certain expectation in certain cultures that even if there are 2 earners; the main financial responsibilities of the household fall on the shoulders of the man and the income generated by the spouse is hers to keep.
At the end of the day, it goes down to what both partners in the relationship agree to. In each couple there are specific circumstances that need to be taken into account. Furthermore, the legal environment (specifically for expats coming to Geneva where typically only 1 partner is authorized to work, while the other is not) plays a huge role.
Personally, I do not see why not can there only be one earner (if the couple can afford it), while the other one takes care of the non-financial support aspect (kids, home, etc) if my partner and I agree on that.
At the end of the day, it goes down to what both partners in the relationship agree to. In each couple there are specific circumstances that need to be taken into account. Furthermore, the legal environment (specifically for expats coming to Geneva where typically only 1 partner is authorized to work, while the other is not) plays a huge role.
Personally, I do not see why not can there only be one earner (if the couple can afford it), while the other one takes care of the non-financial support aspect (kids, home, etc) if my partner and I agree on that.
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I guess there is a great importance to cultural backgrounds in the decision. In certain cultures, it is expected to have only one earner in the relationship; while in others, it is customary to have 2 earners. Also culturally, there are certain expectation in certain cultures that even if there are 2 earners; the main financial responsibilities of the household fall on the shoulders of the man and the income generated by the spouse is hers to keep.
At the end of the day, it goes down to what both partners in the relationship agree to. In each couple there are specific circumstances that need to be taken into account. Furthermore, the legal environment (specifically for expats coming to Geneva where typically only 1 partner is authorized to work, while the other is not) plays a huge role.
Personally, I do not see why not can there only be one earner (if the couple can afford it), while the other one takes care of the non-financial support aspect (kids, home, etc) if my partner and I agree on that.
reuterb, Oct 16, 2009 @ 14:33
At the end of the day, it goes down to what both partners in the relationship agree to. In each couple there are specific circumstances that need to be taken into account. Furthermore, the legal environment (specifically for expats coming to Geneva where typically only 1 partner is authorized to work, while the other is not) plays a huge role.
Personally, I do not see why not can there only be one earner (if the couple can afford it), while the other one takes care of the non-financial support aspect (kids, home, etc) if my partner and I agree on that.
reuterb, Oct 16, 2009 @ 14:33
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Oct 16, 2009 @ 15:02
Funny, I saw this same thread on another Swiss forum....I didn't answer there but I will add my two cents here. Perhaps you are doing a study of some sort?
I am currently financially dependent upon my husband. However, a year ago...when we lived in the US, he was financially dependent upon me. In my experience, most good and honest marriages are a constantly swinging pendulum of give and take. It will rarely, if ever, be 50-50. I find it generally vacillates between 80-20 or 40-60. Being true partners means that you must embrace the eb and flow of life.
As for how the financial arrangement sits: we're equals. If I need day-to-day funds I withdrawal the money from the bank account or ask for some cash. We have a general agreement in the house that any purchase greater than 200CHF or $200 will be discussed prior to making the purchase. There are no hard feelings and I have never felt weird about asking for money. Additionally, my husband knows that I am not his maid, nor his employee. We're currently expecting a baby and we both feel that raising the children and taking care of our home and garden is a full time job. Everyone is working for the common good, therefore the money goes into a common pot.
cheers,
rcm
I am currently financially dependent upon my husband. However, a year ago...when we lived in the US, he was financially dependent upon me. In my experience, most good and honest marriages are a constantly swinging pendulum of give and take. It will rarely, if ever, be 50-50. I find it generally vacillates between 80-20 or 40-60. Being true partners means that you must embrace the eb and flow of life.
As for how the financial arrangement sits: we're equals. If I need day-to-day funds I withdrawal the money from the bank account or ask for some cash. We have a general agreement in the house that any purchase greater than 200CHF or $200 will be discussed prior to making the purchase. There are no hard feelings and I have never felt weird about asking for money. Additionally, my husband knows that I am not his maid, nor his employee. We're currently expecting a baby and we both feel that raising the children and taking care of our home and garden is a full time job. Everyone is working for the common good, therefore the money goes into a common pot.
cheers,
rcm
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Funny, I saw this same thread on another Swiss forum....I didn't answer there but I will add my two cents here. Perhaps you are doing a study of some sort?
I am currently financially dependent upon my husband. However, a year ago...when we lived in the US, he was financially dependent upon me. In my experience, most good and honest marriages are a constantly swinging pendulum of give and take. It will rarely, if ever, be 50-50. I find it generally vacillates between 80-20 or 40-60. Being true partners means that you must embrace the eb and flow of life.
As for how the financial arrangement sits: we're equals. If I need day-to-day funds I withdrawal the money from the bank account or ask for some cash. We have a general agreement in the house that any purchase greater than 200CHF or $200 will be discussed prior to making the purchase. There are no hard feelings and I have never felt weird about asking for money. Additionally, my husband knows that I am not his maid, nor his employee. We're currently expecting a baby and we both feel that raising the children and taking care of our home and garden is a full time job. Everyone is working for the common good, therefore the money goes into a common pot.
cheers,
rcm
swiss_wilson, Oct 16, 2009 @ 15:02
I am currently financially dependent upon my husband. However, a year ago...when we lived in the US, he was financially dependent upon me. In my experience, most good and honest marriages are a constantly swinging pendulum of give and take. It will rarely, if ever, be 50-50. I find it generally vacillates between 80-20 or 40-60. Being true partners means that you must embrace the eb and flow of life.
As for how the financial arrangement sits: we're equals. If I need day-to-day funds I withdrawal the money from the bank account or ask for some cash. We have a general agreement in the house that any purchase greater than 200CHF or $200 will be discussed prior to making the purchase. There are no hard feelings and I have never felt weird about asking for money. Additionally, my husband knows that I am not his maid, nor his employee. We're currently expecting a baby and we both feel that raising the children and taking care of our home and garden is a full time job. Everyone is working for the common good, therefore the money goes into a common pot.
cheers,
rcm
swiss_wilson, Oct 16, 2009 @ 15:02
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Oct 16, 2009 @ 16:36
My husband is the "breadwinner" in our relationship, and I do not feel bad or like a lesser person because of it. I work at home...keeping the house clean and cooking(which I LOVE to do), etc. I don't like to get up at 6 am and waste my whole life working except of course if it were a job I loved. We share everything basically...there is no asking for money and I am quite independent. Anyway, that's my take on it :-)
Interesting thread :-)
Interesting thread :-)
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My husband is the "breadwinner" in our relationship, and I do not feel bad or like a lesser person because of it. I work at home...keeping the house clean and cooking(which I LOVE to do), etc. I don't like to get up at 6 am and waste my whole life working except of course if it were a job I loved. We share everything basically...there is no asking for money and I am quite independent. Anyway, that's my take on it :-)
Interesting thread :-)
Danusia, Oct 16, 2009 @ 16:36
Interesting thread :-)
Danusia, Oct 16, 2009 @ 16:36
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