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Oct 12, 2012 @ 14:50

It is not so prevalent in the French speaking part of Switzerland but more and more it seems that the older German speaking Swiss simply love to interfere in things which do not concern them. Although I love all my Swiss friends dearly, my patience has been sorely tested with at least two of them passing personal comments about people whom


a) they do not actually know or


b) telling ME what to do in MY own home - that is to say, what I am doing wrong, i.e. the non-Swiss way. It has been somewhat difficult to keep my patience recently. Have other members found this at all, or are you all so young that you do not actually have any "older" interfering Swiss friends?

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It is not so prevalent in the French speaking part of Switzerland but more and more it seems that the older German speaking Swiss simply love to interfere in things which do not concern them. Although I love all my Swiss friends dearly, my patience has been sorely tested with at least two of them passing personal comments about people whom


a) they do not actually know or


b) telling ME what to do in MY own home - that is to say, what I am doing wrong, i.e. the non-Swiss way. It has been somewhat difficult to keep my patience recently. Have other members found this at all, or are you all so young that you do not actually have any "older" interfering Swiss friends?


sheila cOct 12, 2012 @ 14:50
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Oct 12, 2012 @ 16:28

Hi non-Swiss way??? what's that? there is no such a thing. Where on earth do you live? the concept of nozy Swiss is notoriously an oxymoron. The vast majority of visitors actually complain they are far too discrete and difficult to approach.. are you sure its not a misunderstanding? Perhaps they simply consider you as their "daughter" and wish to feel useful. You're not doing your teenage rebellion are you?


Might be a good move to have a friendly chat around a tea and inquire why they are so "helpful", perhaps letting them know you are not used to such solliciation and feel "invaded". Be soft, no need to hurt their goodwill... 

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Hi non-Swiss way??? what's that? there is no such a thing. Where on earth do you live? the concept of nozy Swiss is notoriously an oxymoron. The vast majority of visitors actually complain they are far too discrete and difficult to approach.. are you sure its not a misunderstanding? Perhaps they simply consider you as their "daughter" and wish to feel useful. You're not doing your teenage rebellion are you?


Might be a good move to have a friendly chat around a tea and inquire why they are so "helpful", perhaps letting them know you are not used to such solliciation and feel "invaded". Be soft, no need to hurt their goodwill... 


swisskiss, Oct 12, 2012 @ 16:28
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Oct 12, 2012 @ 17:16

SHEILA, I know what you are talking about... Undecided

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SHEILA, I know what you are talking about... Undecided


Rui G, Oct 12, 2012 @ 17:16
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Oct 12, 2012 @ 18:28

Recent conversation :


Swiss friend responding to another friend's daughter's personal matters :


Her : Ja.  She must get married now that she has a baby!


Me : I haven't asked her - even her own mother hasn't asked. One doesn't ask.


Her : Of COURSE you can ask her.


Whose business is it? Above friend doesn't even know this 34 year old.


Other elderly Swiss friend last weekend in my kitchen


Her : "why do you cook on that burner where the saucepan is larger than the plate. You shouldn't do that, don't you reaslise"? This tapping our induction surface with a knife - which is an extremely bad thing to do.


It certainly isn't a case of treating me like a daughter as we are all in our 60s!


 

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Recent conversation :


Swiss friend responding to another friend's daughter's personal matters :


Her : Ja.  She must get married now that she has a baby!


Me : I haven't asked her - even her own mother hasn't asked. One doesn't ask.


Her : Of COURSE you can ask her.


Whose business is it? Above friend doesn't even know this 34 year old.


Other elderly Swiss friend last weekend in my kitchen


Her : "why do you cook on that burner where the saucepan is larger than the plate. You shouldn't do that, don't you reaslise"? This tapping our induction surface with a knife - which is an extremely bad thing to do.


It certainly isn't a case of treating me like a daughter as we are all in our 60s!


 


sheila c, Oct 12, 2012 @ 18:28
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Oct 12, 2012 @ 20:33

Recent conversation :

Swiss friend responding to another friend's daughter's personal matters :

Her : Ja.  She must get married now that she has a baby!

Me : I haven't asked her - even her own mother hasn't asked. One doesn't ask.

Her : Of COURSE you can ask her.

Whose business is it? Above friend doesn't even know this 34 year old.

Other elderly Swiss friend last weekend in my kitchen

Her : "why do you cook on that burner where the saucepan is larger than the plate. You shouldn't do that, don't you reaslise"? This tapping our induction surface with a knife - which is an extremely bad thing to do.

It certainly isn't a case of treating me like a daughter as we are all in our 60s!

 


Oct 12, 12 18:28

She cares sheila c - Good luck to both of you - your tolerance is being tested, but nothing serious.

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She cares sheila c - Good luck to both of you - your tolerance is being tested, but nothing serious.


Dorothy W, Oct 12, 2012 @ 20:33
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Oct 13, 2012 @ 10:54

SHEILA, I know what you are talking about... Undecided


Oct 12, 12 17:16

me too

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me too


Max B, Oct 13, 2012 @ 10:54
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Oct 15, 2012 @ 17:05

I don't think this has anything to do with being Swiss but more to do with being old Tongue out

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I don't think this has anything to do with being Swiss but more to do with being old Tongue out


Livia C, Oct 15, 2012 @ 17:05
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Oct 15, 2012 @ 18:06

Sounds like you are asking us to:


1) comment on two people who we do not actually know


2) Tell YOU what your friends should or shouldn't do in YOUR own home


Laughing


But anyway, yes, I know what you are talking about. I had the same problem when living in Geneva, Illinois  and in Lausanne Rd, London Smile

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Sounds like you are asking us to:


1) comment on two people who we do not actually know


2) Tell YOU what your friends should or shouldn't do in YOUR own home


Laughing


But anyway, yes, I know what you are talking about. I had the same problem when living in Geneva, Illinois  and in Lausanne Rd, London Smile


JR M, Oct 15, 2012 @ 18:06
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