Re: Looking for psychoanalyst to help me deal with relationship break-up
Post 9
Oded, I am sending you the name and information of an experienced, well-trained, very qualified Psychotherapist by PM, so you can pass it on. I explain below why I am not posting it.
I have to add that in all fairness to Eva, that there is a difference between taking 7 months to "complete .. a grieving process" which Oded's friend acknowledges he still has to work out with professional help, and taking 7 months to "finally come out of self denial that the relationship is over."
Consider that you are only reading one side of the situation. We have no idea how the last 7 months were like for the woman who this poor guy would not let go of.
In any event, I know Oded meant well, but may I kindly and respectfully suggest that the way to find a competent mental health professional is not to put a post in a forum?
The place to start is for the person to ask his personal doctor for a reference. Only his doctor knows both the patient, the kind of person he is (age, professional and personal circumstances), the details of the circumstances in question, and therefore recommend in whose competent hands, within the community of reliable mental health professionals he/she knows, her/his patient can receive the appropriate care.
In the rare case when you don't have a doctor, you check well establish medical institutions, whether it is the HUG, La Tour, Genoliers, La Coline, take your pick, and look in the appropriate department. Any professionals there are hired after rigourous examination of their professional training, accreditations and record of practice. Those institutions are accountable for the outcomes. Otherwise, you end up with "counselors" who write gems like these:
Since November 2018, Goddesses Isis, Pele and Guan Yin are using my body as a vehicle of communication, leaving their messages behind for Humanity. [click on the quote to see the source]:
What is really harmful is not comments like Eva's, but for a person in a vulnerable emotional state to end up with quacks hidden behind a glossy website, whether they are lovely, well-intentioned but deluded human beings or for-profit snake oil salesmen. These words may sound harsh, but such people can do real damage to vulnerable people.
No competent, reliable mental health professional shops for patients in forums. None. And us, me included, can provide a reference for a good professional based on our experience and relationships, as I just did by PM, but it may not be the appropriate one. I am not posting the reference because my colleague does not want to be flooded with calls from persons for whom she not be the appropriate therapist, but prefers patients to be referred by other medical professionals.
