Over the last ten years, I have organised a few activities: a couple of hikes, a few drinks, a couple of museum visits, bike rides - whatever, with the idea of sharing what I think could be a fun idea or new location. Nobody obliges me, but there is a certain pressure, a responsibility, and weight of multiple expectations when you post - and certainly more so during COVID. Living between cities, I often post to two groups, and perhaps up to a couple of hundred people view an activity. I try to anticipate people's needs and make the details as clear as possible.
Perhaps we are all not in top shape after the events of the last 12 months, but recently it has been tougher than normal. Do people realise when they put their two cents in requesting a change, or sending 12 different weather reports on several platforms that it is irksome, that perhaps five other people messages the same day, and it is draining rather than fun, and that once the event has been posted, the decision has (with certain energy and effort) been made, and thought through, and changes could confuse many others? Do other adults turning up without carrying their responsibilities realise I already have a child that wants me to decide, provide and drive, and that I would like to relax and enjoy too? For all that we all live in cross-cultural realities, do people realise 'on time' can mean different things to different people and cut some slack? Is pointing out a typo really helping? Are some people so used to cutting down others online, they do so thoughtlessly and demotivate the few that make the effort and take the initiative in the face of partial lockdown and crappy weather? And don't get me started on RSVPing and not turning up. The effect can be cumulative.
And yet I want to share little treasures and ideas, and welcome people for who they are and how they are and where they are at, and know that my efforts too are imperfect, and I value their time, effort and presence in turning up.
Is there a way to organise events with more sense of community, grace, consideration, and appreciation? Could people value other's efforts enough to be supportive, or does everything just fall on the shoulders of one individual, with the added weight of criticism, others' irresponsibility, and that is just the way it is?
Do people value that others organise activities? Could give their actions and contribution more thought?
Perhaps I just need to decide to buck up and whether I want to post any more activities. I would be just as happy to join other's activities, but there is so little happening that it comes down to if I don't, few will.
Any ideas to improve how activities unfold? Or should I just decide to either to take it on the chin, or stop hosting events all together?
My (imperfect) best,