Hi Caroline

Can you give us more details?

What sort of 'Strange Messages' and from whom?

Thanks

Oded

Well... one is the below (have removed anything "id" in case it is some misunderstanding)

Hi, my name is x, i have two reasons why am here , 1st i want to learn french Language, secondly i want to enrol into the university of Geneva, and am new here in switzerland so i don't know if u can help me out... though i have less than 2 months to spend here after which i will come back for my studies.... my intending major is International relations. thanks i'll awaits ur reply. to my email

and another...

hi how are u ?

I wish you happy new year 2010 ,My name is x. How is your life going in switzerland? I am living in x also.
ich wohne in payerne nicht so far aus bern :-)
I relocate some months ago from greece to Switzerland permanently. I am working here in an IT company as x( computer programmer ). I am looking forward to meet nice people and make new friends.

ich bin lerne deutsch aus schule ein bissen.
i want to learn french also
thanks
x
P.s KEEP SMILING.

Guess I just started wondering if "my profil" had appeared some where without me knowing it :-)

Its strangers hitting on you. Almost every girl receives these messages in here. Dont worry about them.

Hi

I just recieved the 'keep smiling' message this morning too. Very strange indeed. I don't reply to anyone who i don't know. Just ignore it. We obviously have been targeted by the same person.

Basically, it looks like people being friendly and trying to meet new people in a new city, but I woul not be surprized if these guys are only trying to meet female friends...

Any guys getting similar messages?

Thanks

Oded

I got the same message...some people think that this web site is for dating.they are very wrong..this is to make friends and know what is going on in Geneva....I think that I will put in my profile...thanks...

Thanks again for the heads up folks.

We take this kind of thing seriously and are on the case.

Please keep reporting strange/suspicious mails to us so we can keep glocals safe and friendly.

Oded

Same message just received in all likelihood from the same person. Deleted.

I agree this is not a dating web site.

Cheers

Cristina

I receive a message from a complete stranger maybe once a year. Nothing to be compared with what the ladies report

yeps, normal to get friend invites/e mails every now and then from people you have yet to meet at an event.  I usually accept invites (as per the recommendation on the site as well) from people I have only met in person.  :) 

True, some people treat this as a dating site, and should the person repeat offend, send a message to Oded, our friendly site admin and referee!  :)

OK, we removed member 'H'. I must admit I was well amused by his reaction...(-:

And, I get a TON of emails from girls, daily!

Here's just 2 I received in the past 5 minutes:

"Hello Nir. You don't know me, but I want you. I don't hit on Bustan or on siteAdmin or on Moonfleet, but you're special!"

"Hi there, you don't know me, but I want to know you for your dashing personality and hair. "

Nir

Sorry for the inconvenience - I kind of thought it was some kind of spam...

But according to the friendly sender I am now also a racist "as I would never have said anything if it has been someone from my own country...."

Hmmm.....

Cheers everyone, and well if you want to become my friend dont send me suspicious messages LOL

Ladies,

Now seriously. If any guys hit on you on glocals in an agressive way, pls report them to us by hitting on the 'report as spam' button that's on every message received. We deal with the hunters real fast and without merci.

Nir

Oh dear Pierre!!!

once a year ?!?!.... I sense a tune of disappointment in your post, like you feel yourself treated unfairly .......
If you want, I can send you this kind of msg on a monthly basis, I'll get them signed by a different name each, so it'll look like from strangers.

Friendly,

I. :-)

OK Reka. What are you doing this weekend, by the way? Want to go out?

Sorry sent you a friend request, but was sending you a message.

Glen

Relax, Caroline. The guy is probalbly just a mix of a Pug and a Griffon Petit Brabanconphile.

I got the message too and thought it was pretty weird as I posted a search for radio interviewees and the message didn't make any reference to that! Thanks Nir - you're a hero!    

Ahhh... always lovely when the creepy forum perverts go on their stalking sprees.

And nope, haven't had a single message like that... the only messages that came from previously unknown members were a bunch of welcome notes when I first signed up.

Arent you the lucky one!! Come on how pathetic is that?

I just received another strange message, from member 'Maria_'. I'd post it here, but it's too sexy.

Maria: I'm sorry hon, I have a girlfriend...

Nir

So? Thats not an excuse!! Go out with me!! Im the best ever!! How can you say no???

Great that i have your number though. Now i can text stalk you!!!

xxx

NIr's too sexy for Milan,Nir's too sexy for his love too sexy for his love
Love's going to leave him

Nir's too sexy for his shirt too sexy for his shirt
So sexy it hurts
And Nir's too sexy for Milan too sexy for Milan
New York and Japan

And Nir's too sexy for your party
Too sexy for your party
No way he's disco dancing

Nir's a model you know what I mean
And he does his little turn on the catwalk
Yeah on the catwalk on the catwalk yeah
He does his little turn on the catwalk

Nir's too sexy for his car too sexy for his car
Too sexy by far
And Nir's too sexy for his hat
Too sexy for his hat what do you think about that

Nir's a model you know what I mean
And he does his little turn on the catwalk
Yeah on the catwalk on the catwalk yeah
He shakes his little tush on the catwalk

Nir's too sexy for his too sexy for his too sexy for his

'Cos Nir's a model you know what I mean
And he does his little turn on the catwalk
Yeah on the catwalk on the catwalk yeah
He shakes his little tush on the catwalk

Nir's too sexy for his cat too sexy for his cat
Poor pussy poor pussy cat
Nir's too sexy for his love too sexy for his love
Love's going to leave him

And Nir's too sexy for this song

Zonker: sorry bro, I have a girlfriend...

Maria: just received your first text message, thanks. Pls note tho that the spelling of 'I will be your sexual slave' is with an 'e' at the end of 'slave'. 

Nir

Mamma mia i'm utterly shocked !!

What kind of messages?  What do they talk about?  Are they just trying to pick you up?

sad

Oh... So should we disregard the invitation to a toga party at your place that you sent last night?

I was getting numerous similar messages with guys obviously just hitting on me, and all i am looking for is friendship, i got a bit fed up of it so changed my status to something on the lines of go away slimey men and since have had no messages from anyone, possibly not the best thing to do as now no one bothers with me but i just got sick of it!!

Hope you dont get too many more weird messages!

I'm contemplating whether to put my real picture up on here. That way i won't get hit on

Jesse,

You started viewing this thread from its second page. All the meaty messages are on page 1...

We need to do a better design job on ensuring it's easier to realise there are different pages on longer threads...it's now not clear enough.

Nir

hahahaha I love this message!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hold on .... This is insane

Let me understand something, many guys and girls have on their profile
that they joined Glocals to meet new people, to make friends, to find someone
to go for a drink, skiing and so on.

hey there are friendly persons out there, what are they suppose to do?

Look at this messages in profiles from people complaining that they were contacted

Why I Joined Glocals:

I have recently moved to Geneva and would be happy to meet people

Meet new friends and improve ......

To make new friends in Geneva -

To meet more people and expand my social circle

Some suggestions then:

Disable the chat or just let it be active between friends so no one gets offended if one
is approached for a friendly chat

Disable the "send message" option and just let it be active between friends.

in "About me" or "Why I joined glocals " in the profile, display a message that says, "Never contact me". It can
be left there or eliminated so you know immediately if that is a friendly person or not.

If the message is friendly and someone makes a fuzz about something as trivial as that
the one who should be dealt with is the complainer for not having followed the Nr. 1 rule
in in "About me" or "Why I joined glocals " ... "Never contact me"

Dating messages and friendly messages are hard to tell apart, so the best thing to do is
to make those "few" that feel offended by being offered some friendship, a chat or just
being contacted, to lock their profiles only to their friends.

Look , if you don't want to be contacted don't say that you are looking to make new friends
because you can make new friends on line or at an event.

So what's next ? At glocals events there will be some one "protecting" people from others
that are there looking to make new friends ?

So it is OK to attend an event, try to pick someone up ... end up who know doing what
but to do it on line is a sin?

This is insane

@Gonzalo

None of us girls said that we dont want to meet people. Thats why we are here. If we didnt want to meet people we would not post in the forums and we would not have friends in our profiles. Like you basically.

The post quoted by Marina (which i quote again) is not a request for a friendly meet. Its obvious the guy is hitting on her and its borderline crazy and stupid. What reaction would the guy expect to get? A marriage proposal?

As for telling dating messages and friendly messages apart, thats easy. If someone sents me a friendly message he will get a friendly reply. If he sends a dating message he will get deleted after Nir or Oded have been notified. Glocals is NOT a dating site.

What you say about puting in our profiles that we dont want somebody to contact us is pointless. We do want people to contact us. Normal people, not the stalker kind.

Hey Gonzo!

This may help you understand - Take it as an equivalent to a biblical parable.

Let's say a guy named Roger is attracted to a woman named Elaine. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else. And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Elaine, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: ''Do you realize that, as of tonight, we've been seeing each other for exactly six months?'' And then there is silence in the car. To Elaine, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: Geez, I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want, or isn't sure of.

And Roger is thinking: Gosh. Six months.

And Elaine is thinking: But, hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind of relationship, either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I'd have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily toward . . . I mean, where are we going? Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready
for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?

And Roger is thinking: . . . so that means it was . . . let's see . . .February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer's, which means . . . lemme check the odometer . . . Whoa! I am way overdue for an oil change here.

And Elaine is thinking: He's upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I'm reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed -- even before I sensed it -- that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that's it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He's afraid of being rejected.

And Roger is thinking: And I'm gonna have them look at the transmission again. I don't care what those morons say, it's still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What cold weather? It's 87 degrees out, and this thing is shifting like a goddamn garbage truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.

And Elaine is thinking: He's angry. And I don't blame him. I'd be angry, too. God, I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can't help the way I feel. I'm just not sure.

And Roger is thinking: They'll probably say it's only a 90- day warranty. That's exactly what they're gonna say, the scumballs.

And Elaine is thinking: maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a
Knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.

And Roger is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I'll give them a goddamn warranty. I'll take their warranty and stick it right up their......

''Roger,'' Elaine says aloud.
"What?'' says Roger, startled.
''Please don't torture yourself like this,'' she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears. ''Maybe I should never have . . Oh God, I feel so......'' (She breaks down, sobbing.)
''What?'' says Roger.
''I'm such a fool,'' Elaine sobs. ''I mean, I know there's no knight. I really know that. It's silly. There's no knight, and there's no horse.''
''There's no horse?'' says Roger.
''You think I'm a fool, don't you?'' Elaine says.
''No!'' says Roger, glad to finally know the correct answer.
''It's just that . . . It's that I . . . I need some time,'' Elaine says.
(There is a 15-second pause while Roger, thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work.)
''Yes,'' he says.
(Elaine, deeply moved, touches his hand.)
''Oh, Roger, do you really feel that way?'' she says.
''What way?'' says Roger.
"That way about time,'' says Elaine.
''Oh,'' says Roger. ''Yes.''
(Elaine turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.)
''Thank you, Roger,'' she says.
''Thank you,'' says Roger.

Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until dawn, whereas when Roger gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a tennis match between two Czechoslovakians he never heard of. A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand what, and so he figures it's better if he doesn't think about it. (This is also Roger's policy regarding world hunger.)

The next day Elaine will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word, expression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every possible ramification. They will continue to discuss this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting bored with it, either.

Meanwhile, Roger, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend of his and Elaine's, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: ''Norm, did Elaine ever own a horse?''

And now realize that the guy who wrote the mails was way more clueless than Roger ever was...

So funny the story...its like you read in women mind lol !!!Mais Roger a l'air d'un simplet quand même lol !!

my dears,

should "strange messages" be really a problem to mention aloud???yu are not the fisrt to face this "problem", n you will not be the last. so a league of women against PM will not change anythin. this happen everywher men n women can be in contact.  i would agree with u if the 1 person REPEATEDLY send u annoyin or agressive PMs

more, this is nonsense, because how is the guy who date u online different from the one who date you offline? isnt the same person in a different context?in french i would say this is "bonnet blanc, blanc bonnet"

I agree with you Maria...I do not mind chating or getting messages from Glocals members, my advise they should read the complete profile for something I put in relationship Married and with children....I have chat with some guys in a nice way others no....We are members to make friends..post activities etc etc.....

Hi all,

Maybe I am not the type of girl of guys here ;) but I have never been harrassed ;) and nobody asked me for nude pic or semi nude pic lol ..and " tant mieux lol "

Mails I have received are in general super polite such as " Hi , where are you from or what are up to for this week end " so no complaints and if I don't replied they never harrassed me ;)

I think is normal when you uploaded a nice picture ( because I am a chica , I know we all choose the best picture of us ) that some guys want to hit on you or even try to have a date ;) however I am shocked with the nude or semi nude that awfull and if had this experience go to the admin person and report them , they have to be kick out from here .

Morever eventhough this website is not a dating site ..when you are asked if you are single or in couple don't expect to be safe from guys who wants pick up ;)

Saludos !

Nathalie

Every site has its rules

Most or some of the women on glocals happen to be on meetic or other dating sites and on the datin sites they wouldnt say to any guy "hey this is not a datin site" because then the guy would just turn around and laugh his head off..but here they can... so what im trying to say is:

We should respect the rules and regulations of every site. 

Amen (now im goin for a cold beer) while u guys are at each others throats:-)

So you are saying that all of us here are looking for men to date? I think you miss the whole point of glocals

Well then I guess, all the married women of here are looking for an extra marital affair?

la saga continua.....